Advice For Double Barrelled Solicitor??

[retired_member6]

Making enemies by Jay Daley

Everyone makes enemies unintentionally. Someone says something you strongly disagree with, you respond a bit too quickly and before you know it things have gone pear-shaped.

What I find much harder to understand is why some people go out of their way to make enemies. In particular control freak managers. These are, after all, generally risk-averse and rational people so why should they do something that seems to only cause problems?

The people they make enemies of appear to be those that resist or defy them, or possibly even just disagree with them. On the surface this looks like straightforward ego, which surprises me since surely they would have their ego under control.

But I’ve begun to realise that this may be an inescapable side effect of being a control freak.

For the rest of us, if we encounter someone who strongly disagrees then we try to find out what their position is. We share our position and this starts the process of discussion, negotiation and dialogue. Crucially the end result of this process is often a new position that both can accept - in essence a compromise.

However, to a control freak this is basically failure. The whole point about being a control freak is that they have their position and that is that. Negotiation and compromise are alien concepts. If anything they are a sign of weakness.

So when presented with a person who refuses to bow to the control, no matter what techniques are used, then this elicits a response of “does not compute”. This person is then quickly labelled as an enemy and the backup process of isolating and discrediting them begins.

But deliberately making enemies is a very risky strategy. Career paths are completely unpredictable and someone you make an enemy of today is someone you may be beholden to tomorrow.

Source: http://controlfreak.net/2007/05/07/making-enemies/

 

[jonno]

is it me or is every one of your posts rubbish bin material

do you not have anything better to do with your time?

no offence intended, of course

 

[retired_member6]

is it me or is every one of your posts rubbish bin material

do you not have anything better to do with your time?

no offence intended, of course

Take a pineapple and shove it up your you . No swearing, well stop like this being an . . you know where the ignore button is, use it, .

 

[retired_member6]

what a ..........

 

[retired_member6]

What's this your forum now, you

 

[olebean]

Lee

Can I suggest that you remove the swear words?

 

[jonno]

wow that's a first, a domainer chav :mrgreen:

shut it and get dressed.

 

[sneezycheese]

Nice find Lee! - And I feel our man Jay has hit the nail squarely on the head!

And defo NOT "rubbish bin material" in my book! :mrgreen:

Regards,

Sneezy.

 

[paul]

Do we have to see this sort of thing every time someone upsets you Lee, No offence but I for one could do without it

 

[olebean]

There is an irony when you read the article and the response to posts!!

 

[retired_member6]

Do we have to see this sort of thing every time someone upsets you Lee, No offence but I for one could do without it

Don't you think I could do without the harassment and abuse as well? One rule for one.. delete the response, admin already said, don't like something then use the ignore button, why start getting abusive? you get it ten times in return.

Lee

 

[paul]

There is an irony when you read the article and the response to posts!!

That made me smile, nice one

 

[retired_member6]

wow that's a first, a domainer chav :mrgreen:

shut it and get dressed.

Who are you? god , i bow down before thee but before I do,

 

[retired_member6]

Right, I've used the complaint button, hopefully this will get resolved, use the ignore button in future. Who do these people think they are, they don't know you but seek to have a go. keyboard warriors.

Lee

 

[jonno]

Right, I've used the complaint button, hopefully this will get resolved, use the ignore button in future. Who do these people think they are, they don't know you but seek to have a go. keyboard warriors.

Lee

jesus, i wish you would head back to gaydar and keep this forum relevant and free of rabble.

 

[retired_member6]

Woohoo on ignore, ta la (smiley) go and annoy someone else and make their day. if you don't understand a post, try not replying, if you don't like a user, click ignore, that's where I put you.

Lee

 

[retired_member6]

Apologies for posts before I regained control, it's just it's 90F here again and being abused is the last thing I need as the heat is unbearable, I've one meal left in the fridge for tomorrow and I'm running out of still drink - for some reason they don't drink the water here and I've kinda followed suit, roll on money in the bank tomorrow or Wednesday. I hope the person next door stops drilling as well, I got tooth ache and that aint helping.

Lee

 

[olebean]

Lee

You could always try a localised proceedure known as "trepanning". The proceedure entails exposing the dura mater in order to treat health problems related to intracranial diseases (In lay mans language "madness")..

Well they do say mad dogs and English men stay out in the sun!! :mrgreen:

 

[retired_member6]

Lee

You could always try a localised proceedure known as "trepanning". The proceedure entails exposing the dura mater in order to treat health problems related to intracranial diseases (In lay mans language "madness")..

Well they do say mad dogs and English men stay out in the sun!! :mrgreen:

To be honest, the madness was always a lot saner when I had football once a week to get it all out of my system. But we grow up and we behave ourselves. People do get away with murder though, they make comments etc and there's no real recompense but five seconds of "hold it hold it and put the bugger on ignore and then cooly walk off into the 90F sun again"

You know as well as I do, the person instigating the wind up is often more at fault than the person who is expected and required to reply with profanities but once is enough, on ignore now, just got to wait for the next village idiot now but hopefully next time I'll respond better and I thought the article was good (especially considering who it was by and the time it was written), not my find though, it was passed to me.

Lee

 

[olebean]

Incidentally, a village idiot was known as a "figgins"!